But Baby, I Love Me

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Emma is the editor & creator (and occasionally writer) for The Messy Heads. She enjoys yellow curry, print media, and singing to herself.

We were all at dinner, and in between bites of pad thai Sjana asked in her bubbly Australian accent, “So, do you girls have any plans for Valentine’s day?” I parted my lips to say something along the lines of not really, I forgot, or maybe brunch? But Isabella pounded her fist on the wonky wooden table, grains of rice jumped on my plate. “YES.” She said. All eyes went to her. She excitedly explained with a huge grin on her face that this was the first Valentines day since seventh grade she is going to be single, and she was so, so stoked. She laid out a plan of buying herself lingerie, and sitting and eating a box of vegan chocolates and drinking champagne. Sounds better than any Valentines day that I have ever had. You know yourself best, so why not give yourself what you really want? It’s a day all about love, and I love Isabella’s Valentine’s day plan.

Enjoy this Isabella-inspired guide to dedicating a day to loving yourself.


Your Playlist

Sex with me- Rihanna

I will Survive- Gloria Gaynor

No Scrubs- TLC

Fat Bottomed Girls- Queen

Love Myself- Hailee Seinfeld

Flawless- Beyonce

Feeling Myself- Beyonce ft Nicki

Bitch, Better Have My Money- Rihanna

Goddess- Banks

Bad Girls- MIA

Big Girls- Mika

None of Your business- Salt n Peppa

Do My Thang- Miley Cyrus

Fantasy- Alina Baraz

No Role Modelz- J. Cole

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Your Day Plan

heartone Put on a cute outfit that makes you feel confident. It could be your favorite dress, some levi’s and a cute lace bralette, or a silk robe. Whatever outfit you choose, add some lipgloss and shimmer on your eyeshadow.

hearttwoMake breakfast with somebody you love. Could be your mom, your best friend, your dog, or your succulent. Mix together a simple pancake recipe (one mashed banana, a cup of flour, and enough almond milk to get it to pouring consistency) and flip them around on the griddle, topped with juicy red strawberries and a drizzle of syrup.

heartoneDance around in your kitchen to the above playlist while you cook

hearttwoTake yourself shopping. Get those shoes online you have wanted, head down to the vintage store with no expectations, or buy yourself a coffee with that house made milk that you normally wouldn’t splurge on.

heartoneHead back home or find a cute cafe to stop at. Take out your journal and write. What are 10 things you love that you cannot buy? Who are 5 people in your life you love and why? And lastly, what is one quality about yourself that you may have disliked but are slowly learning to love?

hearttwoSpend the rest of the day as you wish, refreshed, filled with love and vibrant energy, and ready to give love and receive it.

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Paul: Holly, I’m in love with you.

Holly: So what?

Paul: So what? So plenty! I love you. You belong to me.

Holly: No. People don’t belong to people.

Paul: Of course they do.

Holly: I’m not going to let anyone put me in a cage.

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  1. Anonymous says

    This website, and this article especially, are so empowering! I wish that every girl and women on the face of the earth believed that women belong to themselves, not anyone else. You ladies keep doing what you are doing!

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