Here are a few tips I often share when people ask me how I stay so confident:
Things can and will get fucked up, people will leave and your skin won’t always be clear, but that is not your fault and you shouldn’t blame yourself for life’s fickleness and tendency to be a bitch. Also, don’t get mad at yourself for getting mad about shit because it’ll happen and getting upset at yourself will only make things worse; the best recovery from that is recognizing you’ll be okay, the storm will always pass.
It’s hard to really love yourself if you don’t know who you truly are or want to be. This is probably the hardest thing to do but it will happen, and time spent alone is very beneficial for learning about yourself. Ask yourself a million questions if you are eager to find out: Who am I right now? Who do I want to be? What do I want to accomplish? How can I accomplish that? etc…. And it’s okay to not be the person you ideally want to be but be okay with that because if you are passionate enough and pursue it, that you can succeed at being that person! This is about YOU, so why not be the best you you can be?!? (don’t forget to be realistic)
(no matter how far away you are from the “ideal” you) Life is about growth, so why not enjoy yourself at every part of your journey. Just because you are not necessarily there yet, does not mean you are not beautiful you. You are trying and taking little steps everyday to become the person you will be happiest as, and that is very admirable! I know it’s hard to look at the future without wanting it now, fast forwarding through all the bullshit, and be the person you want to be but you’ll never get there if you don’t live in the now and let it engulf you and teach you. The now will help you for the future! Everyday you will learn and grow and help you become the person you want to be, and you should be thankful for that.
You are unique and magical and beautiful in so many ways and you deserve to love and preserve yourself. Stare at yourself in the mirror and admire all the very magical parts about yourself; look at your unique curves and marks and every little inch of your body that makes you uniquely you. They make you beautiful you and the more you indulge in loving yourself the more beautiful you will feel and become.
This is about YOU!! So why does it matter what other people think?!?! Rock your pimples like your favorite accessory, show off your midriff, show off your curves, make it known that you love the body you’re in and it’ll make people jealous because they don’t know how to do that. You are you; love those stretch marks and scars because they tell your story, because they make you unique, because they make you you and why would you want to hide your beauty? Wear as much makeup as you want, get your nails done, dye your hair a million colors if that makes you feel good! Spoil yourself and love yourself because that is your most important job while you’re alive, so feel alive! : – )
Sofia is a Hollywood native going to school for psychology and gender studies. In her free time she likes to paint, read, and pet lots of dogs. She lives for creativity, does yoga to start her day, and jams out to the Doors. Find her: Instagram // Twitter