Dear Asian women, WHERE IS YOUR FIGHT?


April 2015: I attended a talk on racism in London. The crowd comprised of mainly men and women of color, and I was sat in the middle of it.

Expectedly, we reached the topic of slavery and the impact of white colonialism on the black community. The slave trade and the invasion of Africa left societies torn. Millions of black people still face the struggle of equalizing the dualist world we live in.

The crowd roared.

We then approached the impact of British rulers on the Indian subcontinent. The British stole Indian jewels, Christianised entire communities and scapegoated Indians from their own economy. The education system was redesigned to mirror the British way, and societies were entirely reorganized. Indians were treated as second-class citizens, forced to witness their land being taken over.

India as it was known, no longer existed.

The crowd was silent.

No one cheer. Not one heckle. Not even a crying child at the back of the hall. I stood there confused and voiceless. Why didn’t the Indians in the room feel as passionately about their past as the other people of color?

Do we not care? Are their problems more significant than ours? Or was it that we are seen as the same, and our problems have been shadowed?

I left that crowd feeling completely alone. I wanted to know why no Asian cheered for their rights the way the black community did.

It seemed to me then, that the dualist nature of society had forced all the people in the Indian subcontinent, into the same bracket as any other person of color. This meant that anyone who remained quiet in this group, were shadowed.

The black community have been bold and remained proud. They have stood up for their rights as equal citizens and continue to flourish today in film, politics and science. Racism has long been a black and white problem, with other people of color slightly in the background. The anti-racism movement has been lead by black people, who have brought the inequalities they faced to the forefront of media, and made their voices heard.

Why are there much fewer Asians doing the same?

As a British Pakistani woman, I feel it is my responsibility to address the quietist attitude of our women in western society now, before we fade into the background.

Why have we become politically quiet? The problems we face as Indians, Pakistanis, Bengalis and Sri Lankans are entirely unique from anyone else’s. We come from cultures rooted in honor systems and a range of religious ideals which shape our identities in unique ways. The way western imperialism has impacted and warped our societies has a different lens, and needs a different approach to dismantle and reclaim.

The sooner we recognize that our fight is unique, the sooner we can begin fighting.

This group of women have internalized their stereotypes of being passive, submissive and obedient. British Asian women have somehow carried these traditional traits overseas with them, despite living in vastly different societies. The western portrayal of the Indian women has romanticized their shyness and hyper-femininity. If society views these women a certain way, it might be that these women have subconsciously adopted some of these traits.

We now need to break away from these stereotypes and form our own identities as British Asian women & American Asian women. We need to be proud of our heritage and voice the struggles we face in society. There are now so may platforms to advocate our rights, tell our stories and make people aware of who we are.

The first step is to speak up. We can be as loud, as bold and as dominant as anyone else, if we make the conscious decision to recognize that there is a gap in the anti-racism movement. Here is our game plan:

  1. Talk to everyone, especially those closest to you. Be honest and open with your opinions and don’t shy away from standing up to your friends and family. They are your support.
  2. Get together. It’s time to put our minds together and think of ways to make our voices heard to a wider audience. Great ways to do this are starting a local forum, a university society or holding talks at school.
  3. Keep spreading your message! Make sure your own stories and experiences are valued and heard, and make your mark on the anti-racism movement.

Let’s make history heard.


  1. Shaheen khan says

    Salaams. Unfortunately with asian or muslim women is that we fear what our families or community will think of us as women. We are ok to grumble and moan silently but never want to voice our opinions. Or we use religion or culture not to express due to the fear being labelled as ” too western”
    Unfortunately we always want to leave it for others to change things for us rather than stand your ground and be heard. There are many issues but we need to be strong and stand up to be heard

  2. Alisha Mavuduru says

    I think about these same thoughts everyday!!! We need to unite as a community and fight back!! thank you so much for this, I am so glad to read about someone who is thinking the same thing!!!

  3. Hi Aneesa! As a Muslim-raised Indonesian woman, this resonates with me so much. Back home, I was always the outspoken one compared to my soft-spoken sisters. Now that I’ve moved to Europe for uni, I often find myself shutting down once I face a person with an oppressive and bigoted point of view. I’ve realised that this is exactly what my patriarchal Asian society raised me to be, and that I must break free from my own habits. It’s easier to keep quiet and avoid confrontation, but I need to be the voice I want to hear in this world. This served as a giant reminder and push. I’m already making small adjustments, so thank you!! xxx

    • Lea Tanesha says

      i am so proud of you!!! <3 go get your education, go and get your voice <33

  4. Rosh says

    Hello Aneesa!
    I think it’s time our community gathers together – voices our opinions – and shows the world that we are so much more then the media portrays us to be.

    If you can, please contact me – i’d love to hear from you and collaborate to perhaps make our own platform where we can voice these opinions and show others that they are cared for just as much as everybody else.
    Our voices need to be heard.

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